Successful Shared Parenting

A goal of successful shared parenting is an achievable one.  Parents who set out to create a shared parenting plan that works can easily succeed as long as they keep a few important points in mind:

  • Set aside unnecessary arguing or disagreements
  • Be flexible
  • Create a plan that addresses all of the child(ren)’s needs
  • Maintain consistent and fair communication
  • Work together
  • Cover all important points but also realize the plan will evolve
  • Be fair and honest

If both parents can work together to build a successful shared parenting plan that keeps these key points as the foundation of that plan then they will achieve their goal while providing a wonderful life for their child.  In our world today it is very common for children to be part of a family life that includes shared parenting.  It is how the parents build this plan and stick to it that determines the impact this has on the child.

It is very easy to initially be discouraged when a family unit fails.  This is further compounded when children are involved.  However, parents can and do build parenting plans every day that meet the needs of their child(ren) while minimizing the impacts to emotional wellbeing.

There are a lot of great resources out there that help parents build their parenting plan.  Mediators are one example of such a resource and are often a great alternative to the traditional court process.  Also, in our internet age there are a lot of well written parenting plan templates that are a good starting point for parents to begin building their plan.

Be sure to check our resources page for recommendations on where to find some of these resources.  Successful shared parenting is a very achievable goal and the resources exist to get you there.  It is a truly beautiful thing when parents can get through a break up while still creating an effective and workable plan that makes sure the needs of the child(ren) continue to be met throughout and beyond the process of separation.

6 thoughts on “Successful Shared Parenting

  • October 4, 2016 at 2:35 pm

    Good advice here, parents that are separated must consider how a child or children are affected, not just during the time of separation but for many years afterwards.

    I know this from experience and will take every step possible ti make sure my son has the best parenting from both mum and dad.

    • October 4, 2016 at 2:55 pm

      That is the best thing you can do. Thanks so much for the comment!

  • October 4, 2016 at 2:41 pm

    I agree. At the end of the day, what is good for the child/children should always be the priority. When couples separate because of whatever reason, the well-being of the kids should not be sacrificed. I believe there is a major impact on the child’s/children’s development if shared parenting is done successfully.

    • October 4, 2016 at 2:56 pm

      You are so right! Thanks for the comment.

  • October 4, 2016 at 4:37 pm

    Hey Robert:

    Several of my friends have gone through shared parenting, sometimes with mixed results. Your post is very straightforward and encouraging, I think. The points you make ring true. The best shared parenting experiences happen when the adults remember that the well-being of the child is paramount.

    I like the lightness of your tone in this post. It presents the situation as a problem that can be resolved with goodwill and trying to set aside other adult issues that have nothing to do with the child.

    • October 4, 2016 at 5:16 pm

      Hi, thanks so much for the reply. Successful shared parenting is a process that really requires goodwill between the parents and takes both of their effort for best success. Thanks again!


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