Coping With Loneliness As A Single Parent

If you are a single parent, loneliness can be inevitable.  It is easy to feel like you are all alone, and that can have a whole ration of negative side effects.  Coping with loneliness as a single parent is something that you need to learn to do for yourself and for your children.

You cannot be the best parent you can be if you are dealing with depression related to loneliness.  That being said, it can be difficult to deal with the added pressure of feeling alone and trying to find ways to overcome it.

A lot of single parents battle with themselves over whether it is alright to have a social life, or to date.  You need to know that it is alright to have a social life as a single parent.  It is also OK to date.

Obviously those things can’t be put ahead of the needs of your children, but yes, you are allowed to have a social life.

I find that one way to balance the needs of my children with having a social life is to meet other parents who are in a similar situation.  This can actually be much easier to do than you might think.

One great place to meet other adults who you can relate to and socialize with is at parks or playgrounds.  Almost any park or playground you go to has plenty of parents that are often times in the same type of situation.

Not only are there opportunities to meet other adults/parents at parks and playgrounds, but just about anywhere that you take your children.  You would be surprised, once you start interacting with other parents, just how many of them are also single parents who are craving adult interaction.

There are also many various single parent groups in a lot of communities around the world.  These groups are specifically geared toward giving single parents the opportunity to interact with other single parents to help overcome loneliness.

You obviously don’t need to limit yourself to just single parent types of social groups.  Just because you are a single parent, that doesn’t define you.  However, those of us with children, particularly young children, sometimes find it difficult to find opportunities to socialize because we don’t have a lot of time without our children.

A quick Google search of your local area will often produce multiple different types of social groups geared toward particular hobbies and interests.  This is a great place to look as well.

Some people utilize dating websites, including some that are specifically designed for single parents to mingle and meet new people.  Others feel that this newer form of meeting people is potentially dangerous.

In my opinion there is nothing wrong with dating websites because to me there isn’t much difference between meeting someone online from anywhere else.  Until you get to know them, you simply don’t know them.

I actually feel that meeting someone online can give you a bit of a safety net to try to get to know them a little bit before you actually meet face to face.  As long as your first several meetings are in highly public, well lit places with a lot of other people around, I don’t see any harm in a dating or social website being where you first met.

These are just a few suggestions for how to try to break free from the loneliness that single parenting can sometimes bring.  The important thing is to know that you are not expected to be a parent without a social life and that it is not only OK to do so, it is really healthy and beneficial in a number of ways.

So get out there and make new friends and foster a healthy social life.  Just because you’re a single parent doesn’t mean you can’t have a little healthy adult fun.

 

 

8 thoughts on “Coping With Loneliness As A Single Parent

  • October 12, 2016 at 11:44 am
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    Yes being a single parent can be very lonely and depressing. I was a single parent for about 10 years, although that was in the 1980s. I joined a group called Parents without Partners. It was a great way to socialize with other single parents. I think today another great way to get out and find like-minded folks is to check out some of the groups on Meetup. Getting out and socializing with other adults is a must when you are a single parent, although your kids should always come first.

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    • October 27, 2016 at 3:27 pm
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      Thank you for the comment. Yes, you are absolutely right that socializing is a must, but like you said, not at the expense of your children. Thanks again.

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  • October 12, 2016 at 3:48 pm
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    Yes being a single parent can be very lonely and depressing. I was a single parent for about 10 years, although that was in the 1980s. I joined a group called Parents without Partners. It was a great way to socialize with other single parents. I think today another great way to get out and find like-minded folks is to check out some of the groups on Meetup. Getting out and socializing with other adults is a must when you are a single parent, although your kids should always come first.

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    • October 12, 2016 at 3:54 pm
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      Hi, thank you for your comment and for sharing your experience. Yes, it is definitely a must to have a social life and you are right, there are several great resources for parents to be able to do so. Thanks again.

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  • October 12, 2016 at 4:03 pm
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    Your absolutely right. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have companionship after going through loneliness. I have family members that go through this type of thing including the part where they wonder if there children will be OK with it even when their children are full grown.
    I have suffered loneliness without being a parent and it is so depressing then so I can not imagine what it is like when one is a parent. Some children feel that their parents are not lonely since they have them but they do not understand that the loneliness felt is not always loneliness from lack of no one but that certain partner that fills that hole of intimacy.
    It is so healthy to get out and be with other adults even if it is just to socialize. As you put in this page, it is healthy and beneficial.

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    • October 12, 2016 at 4:07 pm
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      Hi, thanks so much for your comment and perspective. You hit the nail on the head, we are not alone when we have our children but that doesn’t mean we won’t face loneliness. Thanks again!

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  • October 18, 2016 at 4:18 pm
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    Hey there, i found this a really touching blog post. I have personally come from a single family and was raised by a single parent. I know they probably went through the hardship of loneliness but after reading what you written I believe if every single parent visited your site they can find their own virtues in life and not feel so lonely!

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    • October 18, 2016 at 4:29 pm
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      Hi and thank you so much for your comment. That is my hope and goal for this site. Single parenting can be challenging but with the right help and resources it can be done well. Thanks again.

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